The value of loyalty is very important in relationships. Being loyal is defined as being faithful to your oaths, commitments and obligations. To be faithful to our own loyalties, to a government or state or to a person conceived as an imposed obligation.
This definition seems formal and mandatory. I believe that loyalty is not an obligation imposed by outside influences, but by internal moral characteristics and the decision to follow them freely.
Conduct that is externally imposed by law or by others is as if assumed by obligation or to avoid punishment. Behavior that is initiated from within and that is guided and supported by moral principles is an alternative of open and free behavior.
Any personal instance that defends harming others is not part of the universally accepted moral. Loyalty as an obligation can be a very harmful quality, since it makes it difficult for the person's loyalty to access a conscious judgment of judgments about their actions.
When a person does the right thing from his own values and morals, and at the same time he is supported by social norms of good behavior, he usually improves his relationship with others.
The personal loyalty that comes from love, devotion, dedication and commitment to the well-being of the other is healthy. Even in these times, there are people who have not realized all aspects of loyalty in a relationship.
No marriage contract explains in detail even does not even define loyalty. Loyalty not only means physical fidelity, it also includes emotional devotion. Being loyal in all aspects of a couple has many manifestations. Here we will present some ways in which loyalty is expressed in love:
Being loyal means being respectful of your partner's weaknesses and discreetly helping you to compensate for your weaknesses. For example, if your partner is forgetful and loses his keys frequently, you should help him find a system that makes it easier for him to find things, without exalting himself or embarrassing him.
Being loyal means never saying anything that embarrasses your partner either in private or in public. For example, his partner told someone he was sick because he did not feel like leaving. In fact, this is a small fault, but when you reveal it to others it is shameful and disloyal.
BEING LOYAL MEANS keeping the confidences always. Any information private or labeled as secret must be jealously guarded as such. Telling only one person means that it will be told to at least one more person and so on. If it is a secret of your partner, you MUST NOT BE TOLD TO ANYONE ELSE.
Being loyal means staying with your partner, even when you think he or she is in error. You can tell about some difficulty in your work with your colleagues or boss. It is imperative that you have empathy with your partner. Save your opinions for a time when your partner is not emotionally affected, do it at a different time.
Being loyal means reassuring your partner by saying that you are there physically and emotionally for Him. Your presence, collaborative action and words are important signs of trust and security for your partner in the relationship.
Some wives or husbands hold resentments towards their partners leaving them alone in the critical moments of their lives. These resentments can be avoided with conscious behaviors of loyalty.
BEING LOYAL MEANS not talking disdainfully about your partner to other people. You must share your frustrations with a close confidant without blaming your partner. Phrases such as "I feel frustrated when
I arrive home late and are so tired that I cannot help children with their homework." This is complaining without denigrating Him or Her.
BEING LOYAL MEANS that when others say not very positive things about your partner, you refrain from sharing that conversation. Even if you believe that there may be some truth, you can defend your partner and present it in a more favorable way.
Being loyal means maintaining the needs of your partner above the needs of other people. This does not mean that other members of your family do not receive your attention, it means that your partner has the first priority in your important and urgent needs.
Being loyal means keeping your word, being truthful and being reliable in keeping promises to your partner. Not honoring his words discredits you and makes your partner disappoint.
Choosing to have loyal attitudes, words and actions is a personal decision. Being really loyal is extremely difficult, however there is no other way than functions to have true intimacy and maintain love in the couple.