I Feel Like You Don’t Love Me Anymore Letters

I’ve been thinking

Dear [Name],

I’ve been thinking about our relationship a lot lately. I know we’ve had some issues, and we’ve both been working hard to fix them. But I’m starting to think that maybe it’s not going to work out. I feel like you don’t love me anymore, and I can’t keep doing this if you’re not willing to make the effort with me.

I want to know what’s going on in your head right now—why you seem so distant sometimes, why you don’t seem as interested in taking care of this relationship anymore. Is it because something else has come into play? What is it? Because if there’s something wrong between us and you aren’t willing to talk about it, then we need to just end things now before they get worse.

I don’t want things to end badly between us—far from it! But if we’re not on the same page here then there’s nothing left for us but heartbreak and regret. Please don’t let that happen—let’s talk about this face-to-face so we can figure out where things went wrong and how we can fix them!

You are going through a lot

Dear [name],

I know that you are going through a lot right now, and I know that it’s not easy. But I need to ask you something: Do you still love me? Because the way you’ve been acting lately, it feels like you don’t. And I can’t take that!

I want us to be better than this, because we were once so good together. We laughed and loved and shared everything with each other—and now it feels like we’re just existing. When did things get so bad between us? When did you stop caring about me? And when did I stop caring about you? Why didn’t either of us notice until now?

I know that there are some problems between us, but if we work together and fix them, then maybe everything will be okay again—right? We can do this!

You love me

Dear [name],

I know that you’re a good person and that you love me, but lately it seems like we’ve drifted apart. You used to be so attentive, but now I feel like you don’t care about me anymore. Please tell me what I did wrong so that I can make it right again.

Dear [name],

I know we’ve been having some troubles lately, but I want you to know that I love you and I will always love you. No matter what happens in our lives, that will never change.

Dear [name],

I don’t know what’s happening with us, but it feels like there’s a huge wall between us now. I feel like you don’t love me anymore. I can’t stand it—and neither can you, but for different reasons. You keep saying that you do, but the way you act makes me think otherwise. You’re always so distant, so cold. I’m starting to think that maybe we should just break up and move on before this gets any worse.

I miss the days

Dear [your name],

I miss the days when we were so close. When I knew that you could always be counted on to make me feel safe, and comforted. When I knew that no matter what happened, you would be there for me.

But lately it feels like you don’t care anymore. You don’t tell me how much you love me, or even acknowledge my presence. You don’t show up when I need you most. And it makes me feel like a fool for ever believing in the idea of “forever.”

I know this isn’t entirely your fault—it’s not even mostly your fault—but I want us to get back to where we were before, because that was so much better than this lonely place where we are now.

Dear [name],

I know that things have been difficult for us lately. I’d like to talk about it. I know you’re really busy with work, so if you want to do this over the phone, that’s fine. If not, we can just talk about it in person. I’ve been feeling a little ignored lately. It’s not that I want more attention from you—I just want to feel like we’re on the same page emotionally, and that you’re as invested in our relationship as I am. It feels like there are things going on between us that aren’t being communicated or resolved.

So maybe we could meet somewhere and talk?

You’ve been feeling distant

Dear [name],

I know you’ve been feeling distant lately. I can tell that things have changed, and I want to reassure you that no matter what is going on in your life, or how much time has passed, I will always be here for you. I love you, and I want to make sure that you know it.

I know there are a lot of things on your mind right now—work, school, family issues—and sometimes it’s hard to find time for yourself when there’s so much happening around you all the time. But if there’s one thing we can always do together, it’s spend time with each other! We need each other more than ever right now—and nothing will ever change that.

Dear [your name],

I know you haven’t been feeling well lately, and that’s okay. I just want to make sure that you know how much I love you, and how much I’m here for you through this hard time.

I don’t think that our relationship is perfect, but it’s the best one I’ve ever had. And I will always be here for you, no matter what happens.

I feel like you don’t love me anymore

Dear [name],

I feel like you don’t love me anymore. It’s not that I don’t love you, it’s just that I feel like this relationship is over. I know that when you first started dating, everything was great and we were happy together, but now things have changed. We barely spend any time together anymore, and when we do spend time together, it’s always awkward and forced.

I know that this may come as a shock to you. Maybe things will change again, maybe they won’t. All I ask is that you think about the things we’ve talked about in the past—about what we want out of life and who we want to be with—and decide if those things are still true for you. If they are, then please reach out to me so we can talk about how we can make things work again. If they aren’t… well, then maybe it’s time for us both to move on with our lives and find someone who wants those same things from life as much as we do!

Dear [name],

I just want to let you know that I feel like you don’t love me anymore. I know it’s not true and that you still care about me, but sometimes it feels like there’s something missing. I don’t know if this is just a phase or if we have reached the end of our relationship.

But even if that’s the case, I just want you to know that I will always love you and be here for you no matter what happens between us.

I know this is hard for you

Dear [name],

I want to start by saying that I still love you. I know this is hard for you, but it’s not easy for me either. I feel like the person I fell in love with isn’t the same person I’m with now. When we first met, you were so full of passion and life; now all I see is sadness in your eyes.

It’s not that you don’t care about me anymore—I know you do. But something has changed and it’s affecting our relationship. We used to be able to talk about anything, but now when we try to talk about our problems, it only makes things worse.

Please tell me what’s going on in your head so we can figure this out together.

I know that I have been hard to get along with lately, but I want to assure you that my behavior has nothing to do with the fact that I don’t love you any more.

I know it’s been difficult for us to communicate lately, but I promise that this is not because I don’t care about your feelings or put others’ needs above yours.

I know it seems like my actions are saying otherwise, but please believe me when I tell you that my intentions are pure and good.

I have noticed

Dear [name]:

I have noticed that you have been spending less time with me and more time with your friends. When I ask you if I can join you, you say that I can’t because it’s just for the guys. This is not okay. I don’t care if everyone else thinks it’s okay, because it’s not. You need to stop spending so much time with your friends, especially when they are getting together without me. We are supposed to be a team, and we shouldn’t be leaving each other out of things. If you want to spend more time with your friends, then go ahead and do that—but don’t leave me out of the plans.