Introduction
There are plenty of reasons why you should try to slide into a girl’s DMs on Instagram. It shows her that you’re interested in her and can give you an opportunity to get to know each other. But there’s always a chance that it could go wrong—or worse, that she’ll think you’re a creeper. Luckily, there are some rules of thumb I’ve learned through experience (and social media stalking) that can help make it easier for both of us:
Don’t be a creep.
This is the most important rule of all.
If you don’t follow this one, then you’re probably going to get blocked or unfollowed by the girl in question. That’s right — it doesn’t matter how good your Instagram game is if she thinks that you’re a creep! So what makes someone creepy? A few different things:
- Being too aggressive with your DMs (i.e., sending multiple messages in rapid succession)
- Asking for nudes/sexually explicit photos early on in conversation (and especially before even meeting up with them)
- Being overly persistent when trying to set up plans or dates
Make sure you’re following her.
The first step in sliding into a girl’s DMs is making sure that you’re following her. This is a crucial step because if you don’t have a mutual following, it’s going to be hard for her to see your message and respond.
Once you’ve done this, there are several things that will help ensure success:
- Try sending an Instagram Story instead of an actual DM. In my experience, Instagram Stories tend to get more engagement than regular DMs because they’re less intrusive and require less effort from the person receiving them (i.e., they can swipe up or tap once). However, if she doesn’t respond after sending multiple Instagram Stories over a period of time (say 2 days), then move on to sending regular direct messages instead!
Use the right time and day to slide in.
- Use the right time and day to slide in.
You don’t want to slide in at the wrong time or day, because that will make it seem like you have nothing better to do than sit around waiting for her DMs. Also, if you slide in right after she posts or mentions something that makes her seem like she is busy (e.g., “I’m working on an article about ______”) or happy (e.g., “Just got back from vacation!”), then it’s not a good idea either because those are signals that you should give her space instead of trying to connect with her so soon after seeing these things from her account.*
Be kind, but confident.
You shouldn’t be afraid to show confidence in your DMs. You’re not just messaging her because you want a like on your photo (although that is a great reason), but because she’s attractive, and you’d like to get to know her better. Don’t be shy about it!
But don’t overdo it either; no one wants someone who comes off as desperate or creepy. So don’t be too aggressive or needy when sliding into their DMs–they’ll think twice before responding if they see those qualities in your message!
Put thought into your caption.
When it comes to Instagram, your caption is just as important as your photo. If you want a girl to slide into your DMs and start talking, then make sure that she knows what she’s getting into by reading through your captions first.
- Make sure it’s relevant: You should always try to keep the conversation going with an appropriate response based on what she posted. For example, if she posts something funny or inspiring (or both), then make sure that you comment on those things in a way that shows her how much those qualities mean to you too!
- Make sure it’s interesting: The more interesting content in an Instagram post (like videos or photos), the more likely people are going to engage with them–which means there might be some potential love connections waiting for us out there! So don’t be afraid of sharing something personal with this person; chances are good that they’ll appreciate hearing from someone who cares about them enough not only see their latest update but also respond appropriately when needed.”
Know when to give up.
You may be wondering: what if she doesn’t respond? Well, I’m here to tell you that if a girl doesn’t respond after a few days, move on. If she doesn’t respond after a few weeks, move on. If she doesn’t respond after a few months (and this is the most important part), MOVE ON! There are plenty of fish in the sea who will love your DMs and give them back just as much affection as they were given in return by you.
Consider sending a DM with a compliment if you’re feeling nervous.
I can’t stress enough how important it is to be genuine when you’re sending a DM. If you don’t feel confident in your compliments, then don’t send them! It’s better to be honest and not say anything than it is to put someone on the spot by sending an awkward message.
If you do decide that you want to send a compliment, keep it simple. You don’t need to overthink what exactly you’d like to say; just pick something from her Instagram bio or photos that stands out and let her know how much of an impact that has had on your life (or whatever).
Show her you’re interested in her life, not just her looks.
When you slide into a girl’s DMs, it’s important to show her that you’re interested in her life, not just her looks. Ask questions about her interests, hobbies or anything else that shows you are listening and interested in getting to know her better.
If this is your first time sliding into someone’s DMs on Instagram, consider sending a compliment if you’re feeling nervous; it can help break the ice! But don’t be too cheesy–no one likes being complimented on their smile when they have braces or could use some dental work done! If possible, try not to mention physical attributes like eyes or lips either; focus instead on qualities such as intelligence or sense of humor (which everyone appreciates).
If this is someone who has commented on one of your photos before but hasn’t sent anything back yet (or even if it isn’t), consider sending them an introductory message with their username attached at the end – this way there won’t be any confusion about who sent what message!
Show her something relevant to what she posted or mentioned in her bio and caption that caught your attention.
- Show her that you’ve been paying attention.
- Show her that you’re interested in what she has to say, not just her looks.
- Ask questions about what she posted and why it caught your attention in the first place.
Ask questions! People love talking about themselves (especially girls), so ask them about their interests, hobbies, or anything else that shows you are listening and interested in getting to know them better!
The next step is to ask questions! People love talking about themselves (especially girls), so ask them about their interests, hobbies, or anything else that shows you are listening and interested in getting to know them better! Ask questions that show you are listening and interested in getting to know them better!
There are several ways to slide into a girl’s DMs on Instagram with confidence, even if it seems like an intimidating thing to do at first!
There are several ways to slide into a girl’s DMs on Instagram with confidence, even if it seems like an intimidating thing to do at first!
- Be confident: Don’t worry about what other people think of you or your Instagram game. You’re the one who has to take action and make things happen for yourself–not anyone else.
- Be kind: No one likes being messaged by someone who is rude or offensive in their message because no one wants to feel bad about themselves when they’re trying so hard (or not trying at all) in their own lives! So keep this in mind when messaging girls online; treat them like human beings instead of objects so that they can see how amazing of a person YOU are!
Conclusion
We hope this guide has given you some confidence to try sliding in a girl’s DMs on Instagram. It can be a fun and rewarding experience, so don’t be afraid to go out there and make it happen!
Eric Cameron is a passionate relationship coach and counselor with a focus on helping couples reconnect and build strong and lasting relationships. He has years of experience working with couples and helping them to understand the intricacies of healthy relationships. He also provides guidance on how to maintain a healthy relationship and deal with difficult topics. Eric’s approach is tailored specifically to the couple’s needs and he has a wealth of knowledge and experience to draw upon.